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Feedback Giving Framework
A framework for giving effective feedback.
What's included
- Feedback principles
- Timing and setting
- Framework for delivery
- Handling reactions
- Follow-up process
- Self-assessment
Best used when
- Performance feedback needed
- Behavior change required
- Recognition deserved
- Development conversations
Why this is Gold
Feedback is a gift when done well. This framework ensures feedback lands and drives improvement.
The template
Overview
FEEDBACK PHILOSOPHY
The Power of Effective Feedback
FEEDBACK AS A GROWTH CATALYST
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"Feedback is a gift—but only when it's packaged right.
Poorly delivered feedback is just criticism wearing a disguise."
WHY FEEDBACK MATTERS:
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│ FEEDBACK DONE WELL: │ FEEDBACK DONE POORLY: │
│ ☐ Accelerates growth │ ☐ Creates defensiveness│
│ ☐ Builds trust │ ☐ Damages relationships│
│ ☐ Improves performance │ ☐ Decreases motivation │
│ ☐ Strengthens relationships │ ☐ Creates anxiety │
│ ☐ Creates culture of learning │ ☐ Erodes trust │
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THE FEEDBACK EQUATION:
Good Intent + Bad Delivery = Bad Outcome
Good Intent + Good Delivery = Growth
FEEDBACK TYPES:
1. REINFORCING: "Keep doing this" (positive)
• Recognize what's working
• Be specific about what and why
• Don't dilute with "but..."
2. REDIRECTING: "Change this" (constructive)
• Focus on behavior, not person
• Be specific and actionable
• Collaborative, not punitive
3. RECOGNITION: "Thank you" (appreciation)
• Acknowledge effort and impact
• Be genuine and specific
• Public when appropriate
FEEDBACK PRINCIPLES:
1. TIMELY: Close to the event (within days, not months)
2. SPECIFIC: Observable behavior, not vague impressions
3. BALANCED: Don't sandwich (fake praise undermines real praise)
4. PRIVATE: Redirecting feedback = private; Recognition = public OK
5. ONGOING: Regular, not just at review time
6. TWO-WAY: Invite their perspective, not a monologue
COMPREHENSIVE FEEDBACK FRAMEWORK
Section 1: Feedback Preparation
FEEDBACK PREPARATION WORKSHEET
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FEEDBACK CONTEXT:
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│ RECIPIENT: ________________________________________________│
│ RELATIONSHIP: ☐ Direct report ☐ Peer ☐ Manager ☐ Other │
│ FEEDBACK TYPE: ☐ Reinforcing ☐ Redirecting ☐ Recognition │
│ WHEN TO DELIVER: __________________________________________│
└─────────────────────────────────────────────────────────────┘
SITUATION FACTS (Be Specific):
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│ WHAT SPECIFICALLY HAPPENED: │
│ ____________________________________________________________│
│ ____________________________________________________________│
│ │
│ WHEN/WHERE: │
│ Date: _______________ Context: _____________________________│
│ │
│ WHO WAS INVOLVED/WITNESSED: │
│ ____________________________________________________________│
│ │
│ IS THIS A PATTERN? ☐ First time ☐ Recurring ☐ Ongoing │
│ If recurring, previous instances: __________________________│
└─────────────────────────────────────────────────────────────┘
IMPACT ANALYSIS:
┌─────────────────────────────────────────────────────────────┐
│ IMPACT ON WORK/RESULTS: │
│ ____________________________________________________________│
│ │
│ IMPACT ON TEAM/OTHERS: │
│ ____________________________________________________________│
│ │
│ IMPACT ON INDIVIDUAL'S GROWTH/REPUTATION: │
│ ____________________________________________________________│
│ │
│ WHY THIS MATTERS (stakes): │
│ ____________________________________________________________│
└─────────────────────────────────────────────────────────────┘
DESIRED OUTCOME:
┌─────────────────────────────────────────────────────────────┐
│ FOR REINFORCING: What should they continue/amplify? │
│ ____________________________________________________________│
│ │
│ FOR REDIRECTING: What should change? │
│ ____________________________________________________________│
│ │
│ WHAT SUCCESS LOOKS LIKE: │
│ ____________________________________________________________│
│ │
│ HOW WILL WE MEASURE IMPROVEMENT: │
│ ____________________________________________________________│
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SELF-CHECK BEFORE DELIVERING:
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│ ☐ Am I calm and in the right headspace? │
│ ☐ Is my intent to help them grow (not vent or punish)? │
│ ☐ Do I have specific examples (not vague impressions)? │
│ ☐ Have I considered their perspective? │
│ ☐ Is this feedback actionable (can they do something)? │
│ ☐ Is now the right time? (Not in front of others, not │
│ when they're stressed about something else) │
│ ☐ Am I prepared to listen to their response? │
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Section 2: The SBI-I Feedback Model
SBI-I FEEDBACK DELIVERY MODEL
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│ S │ SITUATION │
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│ Anchor the feedback in a specific time and place. │
│ This grounds the conversation in reality, not perception. │
│ │
│ EXAMPLES: │
│ "In yesterday's client presentation..." │
│ "During this morning's team meeting..." │
│ "When we were working on the budget last week..." │
│ │
│ AVOID: │
│ ✗ "You always..." (too general) │
│ ✗ "I've noticed lately..." (not specific enough) │
│ ✗ "People have told me..." (hearsay) │
│ │
│ YOUR SITUATION: │
│ ____________________________________________________________│
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┌─────────────────────────────────────────────────────────────┐
│ B │ BEHAVIOR │
├─────────────────────────────────────────────────────────────┤
│ Describe the OBSERVABLE behavior—what you saw or heard. │
│ Avoid interpretation, judgment, or motive-attribution. │
│ │
│ EXAMPLES: │
│ ✓ "I observed that you spoke over the client three times" │
│ ✓ "You submitted the report two days after the deadline" │
│ ✓ "You stayed late to help the team finish the project" │
│ │
│ AVOID: │
│ ✗ "You were rude" (interpretation, not behavior) │
│ ✗ "You don't care about deadlines" (motive attribution) │
│ ✗ "You have an attitude" (judgment, not behavior) │
│ │
│ TEST: Could a camera capture this behavior? │
│ │
│ YOUR BEHAVIOR DESCRIPTION: │
│ ____________________________________________________________│
│ ____________________________________________________________│
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│ I │ IMPACT │
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│ Explain the effect of the behavior—why it matters. │
│ Connect to results, relationships, or growth. │
│ │
│ IMPACT ON WORK: │
│ "The project was delayed by..." │
│ "We lost the client's confidence..." │
│ "The team was able to deliver on time..." │
│ │
│ IMPACT ON OTHERS: │
│ "The client seemed frustrated and..." │
│ "Team members felt supported and..." │
│ │
│ IMPACT ON THEM: │
│ "This could affect how you're seen as..." │
│ "This showcases your leadership..." │
│ │
│ YOUR IMPACT STATEMENT: │
│ ____________________________________________________________│
│ ____________________________________________________________│
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│ I │ INTENT (for redirecting feedback) │
├─────────────────────────────────────────────────────────────┤
│ Share WHY you're giving this feedback—your positive intent. │
│ This helps them receive it as care, not criticism. │
│ │
│ EXAMPLES: │
│ "I'm sharing this because I want to help you succeed in..."│
│ "My intent is to help you be seen as the leader I know..." │
│ "I care about your growth and wanted to share this..." │
│ │
│ YOUR INTENT: │
│ ____________________________________________________________│
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COMPLETE SBI-I EXAMPLE (REDIRECTING):
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│ "During yesterday's client meeting [SITUATION], │
│ I noticed you interrupted the client three times while │
│ they were explaining their concerns [BEHAVIOR]. │
│ │
│ The impact was that the client seemed to shut down and │
│ didn't share some information that could have helped us │
│ [IMPACT]. │
│ │
│ I'm sharing this because I want you to build strong client │
│ relationships—it's important for your career growth here │
│ [INTENT]. │
│ │
│ What's your perspective on this?" │
└─────────────────────────────────────────────────────────────┘
COMPLETE SBI EXAMPLE (REINFORCING):
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│ "In this morning's team meeting [SITUATION], │
│ I noticed how you facilitated the discussion—you made │
│ sure everyone got a chance to speak and summarized key │
│ points before moving on [BEHAVIOR]. │
│ │
│ The impact was that we reached a decision faster, and │
│ I saw quieter team members actively contributing │
│ [IMPACT]. │
│ │
│ I wanted you to know that's exactly the kind of │
│ facilitation skill we need more of." │
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Section 3: Feedback Conversation Guide
FEEDBACK CONVERSATION FLOW
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STEP 1: SET THE CONTEXT
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│ "Do you have a few minutes? I wanted to share some │
│ feedback with you about [topic]." │
│ │
│ "I wanted to talk to you about [situation] while it's │
│ still fresh." │
│ │
│ ☐ Ensure private setting │
│ ☐ Check they're in a good headspace to receive │
│ ☐ State that it's feedback (don't ambush) │
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STEP 2: DELIVER THE FEEDBACK (SBI-I)
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│ Deliver your prepared SBI-I statement. │
│ │
│ ☐ Be direct, not buried in qualifiers │
│ ☐ Keep it concise (don't over-explain) │
│ ☐ Maintain warm but serious tone │
│ ☐ Pause after sharing to let it land │
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STEP 3: ASK FOR THEIR PERSPECTIVE
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│ "What's your perspective on this?" │
│ "How did you see it?" │
│ "What was going on for you in that moment?" │
│ │
│ ☐ Listen without interrupting │
│ ☐ Acknowledge their view (doesn't mean agree) │
│ ☐ Ask clarifying questions │
│ ☐ Be open—you may learn something │
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STEP 4: COLLABORATE ON PATH FORWARD
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│ FOR REDIRECTING: │
│ "What do you think you could do differently next time?" │
│ "How can I support you in making this change?" │
│ "What would help you be more [desired behavior]?" │
│ │
│ FOR REINFORCING: │
│ "How can you apply this strength to other areas?" │
│ "What enabled you to do this so well?" │
│ │
│ ☐ Let them generate solutions when possible │
│ ☐ Offer support, not just expectations │
│ ☐ Agree on specific next steps │
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STEP 5: CLOSE AND FOLLOW UP
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│ "Thanks for being open to this conversation." │
│ "I appreciate you hearing me out." │
│ "Let's check in on this in [timeframe]." │
│ │
│ ☐ End on collaborative note │
│ ☐ Express confidence in them │
│ ☐ Set follow-up checkpoint │
│ ☐ Actually follow up (critical!) │
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Section 4: Handling Reactions
HANDLING FEEDBACK REACTIONS
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IF THEY GET DEFENSIVE:
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│ SIGNS: Denying, blaming others, making excuses │
│ │
│ DO: │
│ • Stay calm, don't match their energy │
│ • Acknowledge their feelings: "I can see this is hard" │
│ • Restate your intent: "My goal is to help, not criticize" │
│ • Give them time to process │
│ • Come back to it later if needed │
│ │
│ SAY: │
│ "I understand this might be hard to hear..." │
│ "I'm not here to blame you—I want to help..." │
│ "Let's take a step back. Can I share what I observed?" │
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IF THEY GET EMOTIONAL:
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│ SIGNS: Tears, visible upset, shutting down │
│ │
│ DO: │
│ • Pause and acknowledge: "I can see this is upsetting" │
│ • Offer a break: "Do you need a moment?" │
│ • Reinforce care: "I'm sharing because I care about you" │
│ • Continue when they're ready │
│ │
│ DON'T: │
│ • Backtrack and dilute your feedback │
│ • Say "don't cry" or dismiss emotions │
│ • Rush through to escape discomfort │
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IF THEY DISAGREE:
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│ SIGNS: "That's not what happened," different interpretation │
│ │
│ DO: │
│ • Listen to their version │
│ • Look for common ground │
│ • Hold your observation while acknowledging theirs │
│ • Focus on impact, which is objective │
│ │
│ SAY: │
│ "I hear that you see it differently. Can you help me │
│ understand your perspective?" │
│ "Even if our views differ, the impact I observed was..." │
│ "What I'm describing is what I saw—and that perception │
│ matters even if it wasn't your intent." │
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Feedback Quality Checklist
| Criteria | Check | Status |
|---|---|---|
| Preparation | ||
| Specific examples ready | ☐ | |
| Intent is to help, not vent | ☐ | |
| Feedback is actionable | ☐ | |
| Delivery | ||
| Used SBI-I model | ☐ | |
| Behavior, not personality | ☐ | |
| Impact clearly explained | ☐ | |
| Asked for their perspective | ☐ | |
| Follow-up | ||
| Specific next steps agreed | ☐ | |
| Check-in scheduled | ☐ | |
| Progress acknowledged | ☐ |
Quick Reference: Feedback Do's and Don'ts
| Do | Don't |
|---|---|
| Be specific (SBI) | Be vague ("you always...") |
| Focus on behavior | Attack personality |
| Be timely (days, not months) | Wait for annual review |
| Deliver in private (redirecting) | Criticize publicly |
| Ask for their perspective | Monologue at them |
| Follow up | Give once and forget |
| Offer support | Just set expectations |
| Balance positive and constructive | "Feedback sandwich" every time |
Quick Reference: Which Resource for Which Challenge
| Challenge | Recommended Resources |
|---|---|
| "Too many meetings" | #451, #455 |
| "Meetings aren't productive" | #452, #453 |
| "Communication tool chaos" | #456, #457 |
| "Cross-team alignment" | #460, #461 |
| "Decision-making unclear" | #453, #454 |
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Frequently asked questions
What is the Feedback Giving Framework?
A framework for giving effective feedback.
Who is the Feedback Giving Framework for?
It is built for Cross-Functionals and their teams working on Meetings. The AI coach adapts it to your company, stage, and goals.
What's included in the Feedback Giving Framework?
5 working sections: Overview; Section 1: Feedback Preparation; Section 2: The SBI-I Feedback Model; Section 3: Feedback Conversation Guide; Section 4: Handling Reactions.
How long does the Feedback Giving Framework take to use?
It saves roughly 25+ hours versus building from scratch. Our AI coach can tailor the framework to your situation in minutes, then hand you a step-by-step plan.
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